Science can lead to Love

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

How are you all? All is well with me here, been quite busy! I have to share with you all what my inquisitive mind been up to! You see, Fall is around the corner and I’ve been noticing the cuddle birds are out gathering potential flock to snuggle up with this coming fall/winter season. black-love  love_couples_kiss  indian-love_embrace  blak_love_wedding  couple_chilling_rose    jada-will_kiss_love_embrace  love-hands-lock ooh la la!!!

There has been numerous articles, research findings, theories, folklore sayings and quizzes spreading the logical why’s, what’s & how’s to explain the path of love, or better yet the desire. It’s known that human beings has a certain drive to connect with someone on an intimate level. The closeness brings about a certain feeling of comfort and vulnerability; which often leads to the unsaid role of ownership , meaning that person who was once their own individual is now “your baby”, “your boo” or “your bae”. kissy_faces  A relationship develops and the depths of it is usually conceived in one’s head – not both minds. Unless true love is found and both persons finds themselves wrapped into a new world of awe, intrigue and bliss over each other. Love struck hold of the heart and mind.  Many people are content with this initial step yet there is more to Love than just meeting your mate. What about the questions of “how to do we make this last?” or “is this love my soulmate or a honest friend?” Often times we mix our wants and ideals with what is reality. More times then not, we assume that both parties in the relationship are on the same page of views and understanding of what the relationship is and/or where it is going. It is fair to say not everyone is concerned with where there love-life is going, just as long they are not travelling it alone. There are those are do care about what direction their love smitten heart is leading them. love_struck_follows

So, what to do?I have came across a few clips from various websites and read a few articles, out of curiosity, to see what new information has science discovered on the matter. Interesting how the world describes what Love is. The answer is pure perception per individual, meaning Love can mean Anything to anyone! What science does, in my opinion, pave a way for a person to find within themselves who they are and what they really what. People seek more than just a companion when they are on the quest for Love. Checkout this video clip I watched on the TedTalks website:

After watching that clip, it dawned on me that I wasn’t completely solo in my thought about what people are really asking, or wanting when it comes to Love. Oui, it’s remarkably easy to fall in love; however the key is to define the love you want then relay your desire to the person you find ideal to share it with. In doing so, one can only cross their fingers that those feelings and ambitions would be reciprocated. Putting oneself out in the open to feel vulnerable isn’t the most embraced move to make yet in the end, strength is gained.

My dance with love is unlike that of Mary Len Catron, who created the infamous 36 Questions article, she discovered love with her colleague and they are still together today. Many romantics read about finding love this way yet very few end up as a happy ending; especially when you meet people online oppose to meeting them face-to-face. I am believer of Love, I believe you can love as many people in a variety of ways, should one’s heart desire such. On the B-side of that, honesty with yourself, being knowledgeable on what you want and communicating these to whomever you chose is très très important!!! I find myself in the cross paths of wanting to go with the flow with my love mate sly_faces___love_struck_heart-leads and defining what I want out of this progressing love we have; however in these days going with the wave of intimacy can easily lead to nowhere. The questions are: What do you want? What are you willing to tolerate? Are you willing to be patient with you? … Share your thoughts with me! I would love to hear them!!!

Thanks to the TedTalks website for providing the best and most influential material!!! For those who are curious to what the 36 Questions are, the NY Times made a website of it! Check it out and may this guide you to a deeper profound love within yourself and your potential mate! >>> <<<

Salut mon amies!!!  


Say What, Female Viagra!?!?!

Bonjour Tout le Mode =D

Have you heard the FDA has finally said,” Oui! ” to endorse the long awaited libido buster for women thanks to Flibanserian, it has been loosely labelled the “female Viagra”.

Yes, mon amies, the decade long joke is becoming a reality! Last week Thursday, 24 people decided to review and recommend the production of this pink pleasure pill. The leading star, Flibanserien, like all pharm-drugs, has a list of side-effects that threatens: normal body functions, levels of blood pressure and so on. Which was the prime reason the FDA rejected the approval for this synthetic sex-drive enhancing drug twice in 2010 and in 2013; also in 2010, a similar panel of experts within the FDA voted against it.


It’s not new news that the female body is complex, so much so, that some regulations to ensure that the woman’s health isn’t in any immediate danger or that the drug won’t add to any existing problems, is wise, strongly advised and should be implemented; thus the need for FDA’s approval.

With the success of Viagra back in 1998, discovering that increasing blood flow to the genitals reverses the erectile dysfunction. Since then there has been a search for a female equivalent. The mission wasn’t easy, in the words of “… women’s desire have proven resistant to drug’s that act on blood flow, hormones and other simple biological functions” the closest to a solution came from Flibanserian, this chemical drug acts on serotonin (a neurotransmitter, that is involved in sleep,depression, memory, and other neurological processes) and other brain chemicals. Originally created as an antidepressant, the purpose of this drug was redirected to becoming a pill for boosting the libido in women when reports showed it raised levels in their sexual appetite.

What was the changing factor in the minds of the FDA committee last week Thursday?

A host of advisories presented information showing the statistical margins of the side effects and what actually triggered them. Taking flibanserien while drinking alcohol or taking other commonly used drugs, for instance anti-fungal drugs heightens the chance of adverse reactions. Scientists have been tweeking and modifying the drug, to where some positive results and feedbacks from the women who took flibanserin daily opposed to those who took the placebo. The studies show that these women experienced an slight increase in their sexual satisfaction, sexual desire and a decrease in stress.

The panel agreed, 18-6, that proper labelling and education, giving warning to the side effects is essential. To list a few of the potential dangers: fainting, dizziness, in-coherency, low blood pressure and even nausea. Not bad compared to other drugs on the market; however as Dr. Tobias Gerhard of Ruthers University, explains, ” We really know almost nothing about the actual clinical effects of using this product together with alcohol. ”  so one must proceed with caution when considering this pleasure enhancing pill that will be prescribed to premenopausal women. The decision will be final by August, for right now it’s all excitement.

Amazing ain’t it!? Enjoying life and living stress free is a natural way to stay sexually hungry! =D au revoir!!!! 


Happy Singles Day!!!!!

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!!


Today is a celebration for those who has yet to be paired with their ideal mate. The person who is willing to tolerate and grow with another on one platform in their lives or another.

I know you are probably thinking… is this legitimately real? … The answer is, Oui! It is! =D I know is sounds bizarre like, Steak & a Blow Day aka Mens Valentines Day … However just like how that day came into existence so did this day.

It originates from a college campus in China back in 1993, Nanjing University – to be exact. It was primarily for the men, Bachelor’s Day, but that didn’t last to long, Singes Day became a day for both genders to come together, socialize and party. In our youth, we don’t really need a deep or profound reason to party, any day can be a day to celebrate some facet of life! On the 11th of Novembre, it is purely about the four single number ones (11.11) which explains the title, Singles Day. This day gained popularity once the founders graduated from the university and took it into society. To participate is simple, many singles would just get together and party, whether at a club, karaoke or blind dating. The object is to find a mate, nonetheless, find someone who will make the single into a pair… singles_day_couple_image this day comes with a signature meal as well, it’s called, Youtiao (deep-fried dough sticks) representing the four “ones” in “11.11” and one Baozi (steamed stuffed bun) representing the middle dot. singles-day-02_food_image  Isn’t that yummy looking!!! I would totally eat that and dunk my youtiao in some organic soy sauce and wash it down with some plum wine =D!!!

Over 20 years later, and this day has grown from just the college campus between the youths, it had developed into a great opportunity for businesses to make some moo-lah as well!!!! In our tech savvy world, Singles Day is considered one of the biggest online shopping days in China & globally! singles_day_shopping_ad_images It is like the American equivalent to Valentines Day, which is also the biggest shopping day next to Christmas. In Octobre of 2012, one company in China, Alibaba Group, alibaba_11.11 day_images trademarked the term “双十一” (meaning “Double 11”) {registration numbers 10136470 and 10136420}*  They recognized the financial impact of this day and sought legal rights over it. It was reported in 2012, that an online shopping mall, Taobao, grossed about $19 billion CNY, in product! That is about $3 billion USD!!! I mean jut look at this chart, alibaba_money chart_11.11 day_image ,  now tell me, who says there isn’t a price on LOVE?!?!?!! We are in a materialistic world and buying a gift for love of another, for self or for both is normal. And not doing so is viewed negatively.

What I have learned from this day is… No matter what day it is… Always celebrate YOU!!! AwesomeSingles

This day also raised a lingering question I’ve been wondering about for sometime…. What constitutes one as being single? I mean, if you are in a relationship are you still “single”? Does marriage remove the uncertainty and lack of commitment that couples have who are not married? What defines boyfriend/girlfriend relationships & marriages? … Hmmm, something to discuss with your single friends and married ones! This day is a day of finding that someone to make your solo moments a duo! More happy days shared with another, opposed to focusing on whats absent and the emotional anchor that follows, like this picture –> S.A.D_singles day_images Being alone bring a different level of joy, I believe this kind of thought supports this “holiday”, as it’s viewed in some places, I like to see today like this picture –> singles_day_image2  .. What are your thoughts about today? Discuss and share your thoughts! I would love to know!!! =D

Enjoy the day! Au revoir!!! =D

OH! If you are wanting to participate via online shopping, has an Awesome deal exclusively for this day!!! I LOVE ME DAY!!!! 

*the information came from

Money in my Panties

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!! =D

How all of you been? It has been another stretch of time since we last been connected! Let me share with you a bit of what I’ve been up to and also show some raw pictures of my progression!

My company, G. Tonge Enterprise, LLC, has been researching and exploring some options to strengthen our vision and focus. On the side, even though it consumes majority of my physical time, I am constantly balancing two demanding jobs in the customer service & hospitality industry. I love meeting the variety of people my path intersects with on a daily bases. It is, literally mentally exhausting; however I am able network while getting paid! That’s a Plus & I LOVE it! =D In the spare hours, my supposed to be “off-days” I am in the sewing lab! Papaya Paradise is still underway and the rapid development of my coin purses aka the GiGi Pouch (***patent pending***) is taking flight!

Here are some GiGi Pouches I have made for people!

Gigi Pouch_gift_kendra_HMS This a basic Gigi Pouch, made with thick fashion fabric without the wristband attached. Velcro fastening. Perfect size for all the important and small things that can get lost in a big purse OR if you work in a high security environment, like the airport, the Gigi Pouch is good for keeping private things just that, Private! Here is the recipient of the gift… My former supervisor Gigi Pouch_gift_Kendra_kisses1 Kendra Dean-Ajikanle

Gigi Pouch_gift_Melrose_no strap This is a gift a made for my Godmother, I made this with a denim type fashion fabric with a slim wristband. Gigi Pocuh_gift_godmoms_1 The crotch is wide ideal for the latest android model phones, like the Samsung Galaxies, LG G series and those other huge faced tv screen sized phones. The fastening is Velcro to make it easy to manage and adjust to any oddly shaped objects.
*** I will have a picture of her w her Gigi Pouch soon***

1stPantyPurse_gift_stephanie_RED This is the first Gigi Pouch with an inside coin pocket. I used a basic pasley print fashion fabric. Very simple with a lace ribbon bow. An old co-worker wanted it, PantyPurse_gift_stephanie_RED_2  I appreciate the interest Stephanie B.!

This is the second one of the first round of prototypes of the Gigi Pouch Gigi Pouch_gift_lisa_front with an inside pocket Gigi Pouch_gift_inside pocket the same material with lace sides making this one sexy pouch for one of my favourite motivational speakers and authors, Gigi Pouch_gift_lisa_smiling Lisa Eddie-Rimpson    doesn’t she have a gorgeous smile!

These are but a few of what I’ve been up to! Much LOVE to my readers are still with me and referring this site and my work to their friends and family! Merci Beaucoup to all my people who received a TONGE original! My gratitude to a of you!!!

Do you want one? Christmas is near and I have a special order for 10!!! Email me: 

Au Revoir

I’m 4 Years Old Today!!!

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!! =D

Oui! Oui! Aujourd’ hui my business, G. Tonge Enterprise, LLC turns FOUR years old!!!! Yes, the Big 0-4!!! I am thoroughly excited and sincerely proud of myself for continuing to follow my dream, my passion to my destiny. I have an ultimate goal and this billion dollar road WILL lead me there! I just know it!

I want to BIGGUP ALL OF YOU who continue to read, share and comment. I see we share the same interests. I will continue to discover and share useful health information, fun facts on Health Sex & Undergarments!  With my numerous hats my consistency has been roller coaster =) I greatly appreciate of you for sticking with me along this ride.

Much success has came in these four years, as well as lessons learn and losses. These are all expected within the initial five years of any new business. I am reviewing different ways to market and brand my name and lingerie line, TONGE Intimates, to where we will be known beyond our local status. We are going to reach and penetrate every home, electronic device, automobile and psyche. { yes, all of that! } The manifestation of the G-ClothG-Cloth_sample_loincloth has been pure fun and total elation. I want my men to know that I got you! TONGE Intimates more than women lingerie. And making theseIMG-20130624-01104[1] IMG-20130624-01103[1]   IMG-20130624-01100[1] GiGi Pouch aka panty purses! They are the little purse that store the private things in a big purse or it’s the little clutch you take out that holds all the important goods. They are made with durable fashion fabric, mainly denim, that can handle everyday use plus it helps that its sealant is Velcro! { wink, wink } The demands of these custom made beauties are BOOMING which has been a blast as well! IMG-20140502-01151[1] (this is made from thick fashion fabric, decorated with lace around the edges and a black chiffon lining. Va Va Voom! ) … Email me: is you are interested in getting one! Great gifts! It definitely sparks up a conversation, that’s for sure! I am registered with PayPal so everything is safe and secure!

I encourage all of you to stay with me and we will succeed together! This blog has been an amazing vehicle to meet, learn, share and grow within myself and with all of you, the world! I am planning a fashion show, a classic G. Tonge production, this year around the fall/winter season. TONGE Intimates will heat things up with the long anticipated, Papaya Paradise Collection 2015. I have my DJ on board, performers on board, garments in production… many things in the works! Keep close… more will be revealed in due time! =)) until then…

Au Revoir mon amies!!!! Merci beaucoup!!! =D Je t’aime!!!!!!

Thank you! I Love You!!!!!!! xoxoxo

Does Stress lead to Sex?

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

I just had the most invigorating morning walks on my block today. The flowers, the sunshine, my neighbours bustling by, the birds and even the garbage truck was tranquil and enjoyable. I’ve been having a highly stressful past few days, one of the most troubling situations…. My Phone …. was STOLEN!!!  Image I was so livid with the whole situation that I felt sick to my stomach for at least two days, all I could think about was my phone and any down time from that was pure sexual thoughts. WHAT the Hell?!?!?!! I asked myself, ‘how could my mind be so caught up in sex in a crisis like this!?!’ This wasn’t the first time this happened other stressful events had me think of pouncing on a penis, like a puma to their prey. I still didn’t have an answer so I went online this time to discover what the doctors and sex therapists had to say.

 “The adrenaline and the non-adrenaline hormones in the body of a human being are responsible for various feelings like anger, happiness, passion and the urge to have sex.” Says Dr Rajan Bhonsle, a consultant in sexual medicine and counsellor. Image

The hormones Dr. Bhonsole speak of are: Epinephrine aka adrenaline, is an adrenal gland that releases this hormone ( a hormone that tells the heart to pump harder, increases blood pressure, opens the lungs air channels, narrows the blood vessels in the skin and the intestines to up the blood flow to other major muscles areas) along with Cortisol ( it’s responsible for: blood regulation, proper glucose metabolism, releasing insulin for blood sugar balance, inflammatory response & immune function)  these are what our bodies naturally produce as a defense or a helping aid in times of stress. The Flight-or-Fight decision automatically starts to develop within our body, “should we stay and fight this situation or leave?” is the question that’s internally asked and answered. This process can be divided into two types of stresses, negative and positive <- this one is called Eustress ( it is considered the “healthy” stress because it’s positive side to a challenging situation or equation. It’s the reason you get up in the morning, it’s the smile to adjustment of something new, it’s the math equation that looks difficult but inside you know you can get the answer and it’s the mojo in the moment when you see THAT one alone and in that moment is the time to approach.)  As our body is going through its decision making process, deciphering what is what, the mind can wonder to a more pleasant place where sexual activities roam freely. In a situation where the stress levels can rise so can one’s adrenaline; however the flip-side to that is if the stress is high the libido aka our sex-drive can be low, which will not put a person in the mood thus resulting in that person being a victim of chronic stress. Many of us on this planet, I am sure, have had a point in our lives that was highly stressful and sex was the last thing on the mind.

Human beings are creatures of habit, I mean that by saying we have Sex. It is inevitable, it will happen. Yet in the times we are living in, sex may not always be the end result if one is in a sour mood, having a hard time coping with a stressful moment, have a high blood pressure, ability to orgasm or even heavily medicated. There are a sea scientific studies showing linkage between a persons mood and a sex life. It is said that people who are in a good mood are more inclined to have sex often, whereas those who are in a sucky mood {pun not intended, heehee} may not have sex as much. Let’s flip the coin: studies have shown that if a person is in a foul mood or stressed, Sex can lessen the stress and shift the mood to a more happier one! This is done by the mind releasing it’s “feel good” hormone called Endorphin (it’s the mind absorbing the feeling of pain and counteracting it with a numbing sensation than can make the pain tolerable). Which can explain my frequent thoughts of wild monkey dancing in the most stressful moments. ;-)) hahaha je comprend (I understand)… Porquoi???

Why are we so primitively lustful in stressful moments? Is the act of Sex really a medicine? OUI!!! Yes, it is!!! =D

Through my findings, it is evident that sexual arousal, hugging and touching your significant other is a good way to rebuke stress and anxiety from our lives. The brain has a “pleasure & reward system” as Sheenie Ambardar, MD calls it, that sent out and swims through the body. Sexual intercourse ignites multitude of things with the body and mind that is more a benefit than anything man-made! **SideNote! Sex is also an economically savvy way to improve one’s health! How Awesome is it!**  Here are a few points that proves to me that sheet shifting is C’est bon! =D 

  • Sex on the regular can lessen the chance of one’s blood pressure; Especially during, or before a highly stressful event… “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” Says, Joseph Pinzone, MD with Amai Wellness
  • Sex boosts the immune system! Regular sex produces antibodies that keeps the body’s defense system protected and working.
  • Sex lessens the chance of a heart attack. The heart is a muscle like the others surrounding our bones in the body, through sex the heart rate increases, opens the blood flow and lets oxygen easily pass through as well as keeping estrogen & testosterone levels balance. Studies have shown that, “men who had sex at least twice a week were half likely to die of a heart attack. (Mayer Robinson,
  • Sex boosts the libido. It’s like that new song by Chris Brown, the chorus says, ” til we get it right/we gonna ___ some more/til we get it” {of course that’s the radio edited version, feel free to fill in the blanks =) } anywho! Chris Brown is right, that is the key to improving the libido. As for us women, this will increase blood flow, keep the punani moist, wet and keeps her tight!
  • Sex is a pain reliever. As mentioned above, they body can produce a pain blocking hormone, which is also a sex hormone. “Orgasm can block pain… vaginal stimulation can block chronic back and leg pain…genital self-stimulation can reduce menstrual cramps, arthritic pain, and in some cases even headache,” says Barry R. Komisaurk professor at Rutgers University in New Jersey and author of “The Science of the Orgasm”.
  •  Sex can be a sleep aid. Got insomnia? Have an orgasm and you will be sound asleep. How so? According to Sheenie Ambardar, MD, after an orgasm a hormone called Prolactin is disperses feelings of relaxation and sleepiness throughout the body.
  •  Sex is a grrreat way to exercise! At base you lose 5 calories when initially engaging into sex, four more than just sitting watching t.v. Each position has it’s health benefits, thanks to books like, “The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity” by Daniel P. Reid, shares with you the sexual asset to each position for one’s well-being. Image

I’ve read that sex can lower the chances of men getting Prostate Cancer. According to a published study in the, Journal of the American Medical Association, men who ejaculated often (say about 21 times a month) are likely to get it, says Kaya Mayer Robinson, contributing writer for Yes, masturbation counts. However I haven’t been able to find any corroborating information proving this may be true, now on the flip-side there wasn’t anything saying that it won’t help either. The odds are low but it’s still a plus to bust a nut! {wink, wink}  

Hopefully the information provided will assist in reducing your stress and increasing your health & sex lifestyle; also with along with intimacy, it boosts self-esteem and creates happiness. All essential for optimum well-being, sex is everywhere and with No apology. We are in the age of information and sexual liberation. It’s more than just means of procreation, we know this from centuries of documented illustrative facts of the numerous ways of obtaining sexual euphoric pleasure with and without another person(s) from various parts of the world. We just need to keep ourselves alive & well so that we can continue to indulge. #KnowledgeisPower #TongeIntimates #HealthisWealth

Bonne journée!!!