A Body Shaving Update!

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

It had been over 2 years since I have posted, ‘ Body Shaving: A Trimming Trend ‘ and after that success I continued my research to find the ideal razor for me. Once I ruled out hair removal creams ( my patience just won’t tolerate it and the gross smell… yucky!  ) stinky_face_emojicon, Brasilian waxes ( frankly, I don’t like pain. I would rather get a tattoo ) hurt_face_emojiconand Electric razors ( all I can say is blood and bumps… you put it together ) dislike_emoticon I realised that a razor was my speed. So, the next step was to find the proper razor for MOI. I have experimented with various numbers of blades on razors looking for what would give me the closest shave and least chance of getting razor bumps bumps_by_bikini line aka in-grown hair bumps. {no that is NOT my bikini line… This lady is wearing pink NOT my colour} Now, essentially it is all about technique, speed and after-shave care. ( Oui, there’s a science to shaving, some would go as far to say shaving is an Art) Also, i would add in skin-type. Much of these razors come with a lubricated strip for additional moisture, good idea; however if you have sensitive skin you may want to make sure whatever is the cooling agent is on that razor is positive for your skin. Now, I am more the rugged lady who once was the tom-boy on the block than the prissy girlie lady who once had a princess themed bedroom and wore tiaras on my birthday. I say that to give background to my late introduction into body shaving. I never cared until I went to the neighbourhood pool and saw attractive half-naked boys and girls in cute swim wear with no hair peeping out the sides of their swimsuit…. like this –> pubic45  I quickly realised that I might have to clean-up my poolside appearance. That’s when body shaving entered my world. Over the years I have used different ways to remove my body hair and I have found that razors work best for me. I have better control over my shaving. I had the best results with my bikini line and my underarms with the Noxema brand of shavers, The bikini and the bikini-line + trim noxema_bikini_razor noxema_bikni shaver + trim Once I got accustomed to these, the store where I bought them from stopped selling them. So, I was back to square one. Lost in the sea of shavers and sure where to paddle so I chose to use what majority of everyone was using so I moved on to the two blades, double bladed_razors_images I used all types for women, men and people with sensitive skin. The reaction to these double blades left my underarms and bikini-line irritated so, I upgraded my blades to three three_blade_razor  w the aloe & shea butter strips. I still came up with the same results. I decided to go up to four blades four_blade_razor at that point I was wondering if I was doing too much, I didn’t see any difference with the aftermath of the shaving. Then I saw a five blade razor five_blade_razor  and the six blade razor six_blade_razor and did I mention the blades with a micro chip?!? Weird! (1) I didn’t know such blades existed then (2) were these more effective with each stroke and time then the others with less number of blades. So, I started to research the history of shaving again and I came across the key factor. Simplicity.   So, I went backwards and bought a single blade disposable razor Single_blade_disposable_shaving_razor … using the shaving techniques that ensures close & smooth results, plus I use a new razor with each shave. The results were satisfactory,  I found my razor! =D yaaaaay!!!! Would you believe there are multi-blade razors out there?!?! I was wide-eyed over the Duode 12 blade razor 12_blade_razor and the ridiculous 22 blade razor 22blades_razor by Gillette. All I can say about these hair removing devices is….. In the words of my man, Inspector Gadget “Yeowizzers!!!!” I encourage all of you do your due diligence and find what works best for you! Everyone on this planet is different, so what works for one may NOT work for another. Be intrepid, open and experiment! Merci Beaucoup mon amies!!!!


All images came from http://www.GOOGLE.com .. Merci Google!!!! 

Au Revoir Tout le Mode!!!!!


Pretend Boyfriends

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

The other night I was out having drinks with a dear friend of mine, listening to his exciting dating adventures and nibbling on our gourmet appetizers he jokingly told me that he was my “boyfriend“. “Ha! You’re my What?!?!?!” I said trying not to regurgitate my liquid dinner of some dark chocolate stout looking lager. He calmly repeated himself and proclaimed to be my “boyfriend”.  All I could say at that moment was, “OK” with a quick laugh but I felt a slight disappointment. Damn, how did I get a boyfriend without being asked? Was I even there to agree to the proposed agreement? Just my luck, I’ve missed being asked to be someone’s girlfriend and just became it. Ha! Call me a hopeless romantic but I would like to be asked to be a guys’ girlfriend. =)

Jokes aside, what exactly is the role of this substitute lover? Are there obligations that’s expected to be met? Is it a cross-breed between friend with benefits and jump-off/rebounder? Or is it another description under the big ass umbrella of what we call, “a friend” who we “kick it” with? It’s a term that’s synonymous with so many titles that I get confused. Both men & women have this stand-in partner, but who is this person?

I remember hearing females talk about their “fake boyfriend” and how awesome he may be and blah, blah, blah… They would speak of the guy as if he was a life-sized Ken doll – anatomically challenged and all. Usually those females were referring to their homosexual friend or their platonic home-boy. {which doesn’t make my analogy too far off} They would do everything together except for having sex; even tough it was never the guy who they really desired to be with and build a family.
On the contrary to the ladies version, I don’t recollect hearing any guys talk about their “pretend girlfriends” or being a relationship that’s based on an illusion of what they ideally want. However, there is talk of “the girl” someone is seeing at that time or been seeing for some time. Generally in these cases, with men, they are more than likely having sexual relations with their home-girl. They might even go out from time to time doing some fun couple-like activities, like going shopping, clubbing or to the movies. She may even know a friend of his, maybe two, probably been to his job or over his hangout spot.

So what’s REALLY going on??? What are we doing? Where’s the line, a fine line, that defines our engagements with these people who are temporary aides to our need for closeness? They are providing a form of love and comfort, like a server at fine dining restaurant; They are there to create a pleasant atmosphere, tend to our needs and meet our expectations. I’ve come to realize that these companions of convenience may, or may not be the actual lover. In some cases the ideal mate is the bedroom buddy, the one who is only around until the sun comes up, maybe spend a weekend somewhere away from the common folk. {like my apartment, Ha!} Is it crazy to know that the homey tender roni is the modern fix to the primal lust and the natural instinct we, as humans, all act upon… SEX!!!

We’ve stepped back into the era of sexual-liberation, for a lack of a better choice of words. =) That’s where, I believe, this concept of a stand-in partner came to fruition in the 21st century. An addition to our list of conveniences, the world is moving so fast that a “friend with benefits” to full-fill our innate carnal pleasures is now a healthy release of frustration and can lead to a happy long-life. Yet on the flip-side, isn’t this misleading? With the English language, there are so many words with double meanings it leaves room for misinterpretations of one’s true intent. How happy will one be in old age with no one really there to share the golden days? I mean, how can you solely trust and build with stability with someone you pretend to deeply care for? Do we factor in that other person may, or may not, what to be around in the long run? Isn’t sort of unfair to invest time, energy and thought on something, and someone who’s just the understudy to the main character? Do you we even have an idea of who the co-star to our life movie is?
Let me know your thoughts!

Au revoir mon amie!!! *kiss, kiss*

Love Stuck: when love plagues the brain

Bonjour Tout le Mode!

It’s 1:53a and a starling thought just occurred to me that I must share with you… I believe my mind is stuck in love with this guy I’ve been casually dating for the past 6+ months. The crazy part is, I have spent the last month purging him out my system. I have reached a level of success with my emotions however my mind remains in a limbo…

Let me briefly explain why this is post worthy news, I am a woman who thinks logically about my engagements with human beings yet I am a free-spirit, floating aimlessly through the winds nestling at places along my path. I am friendly, loving and brutally honest with my intentions, at times.  I have been buzzing around single for quite some time, and I have decided that in 2013, I Will Make An Effort To Have A Relationship. I have chose this path in light of a pregnant scare I had a while back. I wasn’t sure if I was ready to have a child with a guy who: 1. I didn’t take seriously  2. Could be the neighbourhood whore 3. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to introduce him to my world or get to know him in his. DEEP, no? In that thought I realised that it was time I start dating, seriously. In doing so, I have slowly let go of my delicious list of men whom I’d had rendez-vous with. (PAUSE) Let us have a moment of silence…

That was a moment to recognize: Good Sex… Yes, I said it AND dedicated a few seconds of reflection.

We ALL have those reminiscent flashbacks and smile at the aftermath…  In this situation, has my mind under siege. I dated a guy who alleged to have understood where I was coming from and agreed to date me. Months past, good sex was had, delightful food was eaten and the fun somehow merged into casual sex link ups. Which is the opposite direction I am going. Realising that I had to get off the pleasure train, was a sad struggle. Everyday I had made steps to re-gain my sanity as being solo, and it was hard. I couldn’t remember the last time I been through this! My body was going through withdrawal, well actually my “lil lady” was going through it the most. A month has pasted and I’ve got it together, for the most part. Now I cant get him off my mind, his characteristics pop up every now and then. Something, anything, can remind me of him. Pourqoi?   How do I remove this guy from my mind. Part of me wants to verbally tell him, ” GET OUT OF MY HEAD” in hopes that it’ll work; yet I hear a small voice somewhere in my cerebral domain begging me to NOT do that. When I hear that voice, I’ve heard it once before – I’m slightly concerned that I may be schizo,  I get confused. Why is there a campaign to save “us”???

I have paced back and forth wondering recklessly in my mind and aloud, for an answer. I then come up with one and somehow manage to get more confused then I was before. It is ridiculous and partially humourous. So, I asked friends even strangers, if they been in a similar situation. They all said the word that I’ve loathed for years, LOVE. Yikes!  How can I be in love with someone who doesn’t seem to fit the mole I desire? This question posed a new question, Do I really know what I want in a mate? Yes, I know what I am attracted to but does that constitute a sound ground to build a relationship? I haven’t been in the dating field for so long what do I do with a guy I like and don’t want to lower the value of our meet ups by having sex with him before we really know each other enough to not confuse, or complicate things?

I’m still deliberating with myself over this madding problem… Hopefully I will have answers before the start of winter… Ha!

SALUT!!!    :-* kisses!!!

Cheating in Dating

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

I have been doing some minor research lately. Couples are my focus this time.  I started dating and  the fine lines of what to care about, when to call/text, what does it possibly men when there hasn’t been communication for days, what to do/say with the EX  comes in the picture, or what to do when the person of interest has children and I have NONE … where is the memo on these topics? So to find solace in my questions I sit outside and watch people to find answers or to gain a better understanding. * I love to people watch, it is an activity were the actions of people are being observed, and at every change of the season so does the interaction of people.*

As humans, we change with the weather. As a woman, when the heat turns up less clothes gets put on =)) I thoroughly enjoy the look of a man’s body glistening from sweat as the sun darkens his skin… (moment of silence)… Ohh lala, Oui Oui! Je l’adore!!!

Plus, in my line of business beautifully sculpted bodies are greatly appreciated, admired and even adored. In my off, or down time, I like to watch people to get inspired. Or to remind me that I am human with human desires… Sometimes I believe we forget that human beings do humanistic tings. For instance, Who made up the concept of “cheating” in terms of relationships? Who said there have to be rules of engagement when everything inside the body feels liberated and free just doing what it wants. What is the true purpose of monogamy? Does the family structure Have to be One man and One woman? What has these rules lead us over these recent years of “enlightenment”??? High divorce rate, low marriage rate, record breaking aborted babies, and more single parents….

I just want to know, is cheating really wrong or bad like media makes it out to be? Has our feelings become so sore over whats to perceived as betrayal that we don’t see the bigger picture? I asked my co-worker what’s the purpose of monogamy and she told me, “to show your strength, will-power and commitment to one person” how profound is that!? I have struggled w acknowledged commitment. Meaning, commitment is a growth added to a relationship and earned like Trust is earned… Once I verbalise my commitment to someone, that’s when tings hit the fan and splatter everywhere! I need help, I understand this – however my question still stands, “Can there be Cheating in Dating” ? Do we have, or how to have a conversation about the definitions we adhere to for Cheating and Dating???