I Wondered What Life Was

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

I rose this morning feeling a certain way, not sure at the time what it was but I got up, washed my face and upon drying my hands off it hit me… Wheat happened to my companion. Half consciously aware of my movements, I staggered my butt back to bed. My alarm clocks, yes I have 2, going off loud and in distant ranges where I have to get back up to hit the “snooze” button. I couldn’t ignore it, I had to deal with them, in as much I wanted to curl up in my warm bed and slide my curious fingers up and down my lovers body. Alas…. no one else was in the bed. So, I got up and by chance… I read this post. The irony lead me to share w all of you. =) enjoy the read and I will post later.


I Wondered What Life Was.


The Men’s Valentine’s Day

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

I have some news to share with you!!! Last week I was casually talking to this guy about food { one of my absolute favourite topics } or something, he randomly mentions Steak and a Blowjob Day. With the look of perplexing thought, I turned to him and said “What????” He replied with a laugh but realized I truly didn’t know what he was talking about. He pointed to his phone and said it again, like the second time around would sink in. I looked at him and asked him to explain this hip new thing, or “day”. He told me that 4-5 years ago at his college he got wind of this Valentine’s Day for men called Steak and a Blowjob Day. I laughed so hard tears ran down my cheek, never had I heard such a thing. He kept telling it was a official day but I didn’t believe him so I went on Google to see if this day actually exists…

And… It is….Image

Around of applause to the Boston radio personality, Tom Birdsey. He is the originator of this celebrative day for men, which is said to be a month after Valentine’s Day (14th of March). Now from my research, Birdsey came up with this day to honour men since Valentine’s Day is primarily a day for women to be showered with lavish gifts, flowers and chocolates whereas men really could care less about those things. According to Birdsey, all men want is basically two things: 1. A fine steak 2. Good fellatio so in his influential position, as a radio disc jockey, he used his tools to voice his opinion and to spread the word….

Lo and behold on 2002, S and BJ Day became a holiday. Through the years it’s been recognized and celebrated thanks to social media networks like Facebook. One guy even created a website for it since it’s not in Wikipedia ( www.steakandbjday.com ) That isn’t the only place online you can go to learn more about this day but it’s simple enough and self explanatory. It’s coined as a “equal opportunity holiday” (Shilcutt, 2011) This is a day where any shaft can get licked and the attachments can get tickled =)) hahahaaa

Now the controversy is whether Steak and BJ Day is celebrated on the 14th of March or the 20th. I found out about this day on the 15th. I went to a Bar-B-Que later that day and I asked around to see if anyone heard of it and what day it is on. Hypothetically speaking I asked about 20 people and about 8 of them heard of S & BJ Day and that it was on the 14th. Now, for those who just found out like I did… I suggest, if you celebrate or celebrated Valentine’s this year then, let tomorrow be THAT day! Ask your penis provider how he would like his steak and bring out the knee pads! =)) Sheer pleasure should come out {pun intended, hahahaa}


Bon Appetit mon amies!!!! =))


www.houstonpress.com; Shilcutt, Katherine, 14/March/2011





Womens History Week: Gerda Lerner

Bonjour Tout le Mode!!!

As you all know March has many features, this week is nationally known as Women’s History Week. In honour of this week I chose to introduce you all to a woman I call the Mother of Women’s History, Dr. Gerda Lerner.

  Image Born Gerda Kronstein, her native homeland was Vienna, Austria. That is where she and her siblings received their education. Her family was well off, something like the USA middle-class {or what’s left of it, ha!} Her father a pharmacist and businessman, they lived decent until the German government took over and forced them to give the Nazis their home in 1938. Gerda, her mother and sisters lived in conditions that compromised their lives, facing near death. Fortunately for the Kronstein family they were able leave that place and in 1939 they migrated to New York. Happy to not be under the dictator’s rule, Gerda worked numerous odd jobs like; waitress, x-ray technician, sales lady and etc, as she learned English. As a form of healing and moving past the horror she left in Europe, Gerda wrote fiction stories about the Nazis brutality and the strength to overcome the pain. In 1941, ‘The Prisoners’ was published also in that she married a well respect movie editor named, Carl Lerner. Two years later her second book was published, ‘The Russian Campaign’ . Followed behind that accomplishment was the births of her two children, Stephanie and Daniel.

During those blissful months of motherhood, Gerda’s passion for the equalization of women, and those concerned minorities, rights grew deeper. It was around this time Lerner was involved in a variety of organizations: Congress of American Women, this was a grassroots group who was politically active in addressing economic and consumer issues; was a supporter of the Emma Lazarus Federation, United Nations and even a civil rights group for African Americans. She continued to write, research and teach the on topics that would empower all women and encourage them to be aware, educated, independent and pro-active. Her fervor for such topics showed her open-mindedness which brought on the off-Broadway musical she did with Eve Merriam, Singing Women, (1951) Followed that was her novel, ‘No Farewell’ (1955), she co-authored a screenplay with her husband, ‘Black Like Me’ (1964), and a heart-felt memoir, ‘A Death of One’s Own’ (1978).

In midst those eras is the bulk if the powerhouse of Dr. Gerda Lerner, in the late 1950s, when she started research for her novel of the two abolitionist sisters, Sarah & Angelina Grimké, in this search she enrolled into New School for Social Research were she taught a course of on women’s history, the first that school had, and were received her Bachelors degree (1963). Under the ether, Greda went on to get her M.A (1965) & Ph. D at Columbia (1966), her published dissertation: The Grimké Sisters from South Carolina: Rebels Against Slavery (1967).  A year later, upon receiving her doctorate, Dr. Gerda Lerner went on to the Sarah Lawrence College, were she became director of the women’s history degree program. Her presence and passion brought the establishment of women’s history month there as well as the recognition of black women’s history. In 1972, Dr. Lerner was apart of developing their first Master’s degree program in women’s history. In addition to that Dr. Lerner produced an anthology documentary focusing on the importance of black women’s history as it was weaved in with the history of all women, Black Women in White America, in the same year, shedding light on truth that hidden, lost or buried all equaled to being unknown, after that came a The Female Experience (1976).  Her chronology dating the life-cycles of women in history, was a pathway to her participation in the 1979 Women’s History Institute ,15-day conference that was held at Sarah Lawrence College during that summer. That was a strong arm in getting Women’s History Month observed and celebrated today.

In 1980, Gerda left Sarah Lawrence College, after 12 years, relocated and started  a Ph. D program on women’s history at the University of Wisconsin. A year later, Dr. G. Lerner was honoured the seat of President of the Organization of American Historians, she was the first woman to be in such a position since 1946! Only a year as the educator director, she left the organization in 1982, with no hard feelings over her departure, the Gerda Lerner-Ann Scott Prize was created for the best women’s history dissertation, in her honour. The American Historical Association’s Joan Kelly Prize was awarded to Dr. Lerner, in recognition of her work on women’s oppression.  In 1995, Lerner was awarded the Kaethe Leichter Prize, this is an honour that recognizes the “exiled Jewish intellectuals who have built lifetimes of distinguished achievement” (jwa.org, 2009), given to her by the Austrian Ministry of Women’s Affairs. In the same year, she was given the one of the highest honours in the whole Austrian country, the Austrian Cross of Honor for Science and Art.

Dr. Gerda Lerner wrote and published more books and articles: The Majority Finds Its Past (1979), The Creation of Patriarchy (1986), The Creation of Feminist Consciousness (1993), Why History Matters: Life and Thought & the sequel to her dissertation, The Feminist Thought of Sarah Grimké (1997) and her last known published piece, Fireweed: A Political Autobiography (2002). Dr. Gerda Lerner joined her late husband on the 2nd of January 2013. Truly a resilient women who was powerful, influential and staple in paving the way for equal rights for all women and those society regarded as minorities. Every human being has a right to live as the next human being, that was a mantra that she recited in many ways yet message remained the same. Respect each other, love who are and where your history came from.

  “Our  ideas about what is possible for the future are formed out of our knowledge of  what was possible in the past.” – Dr. Gerda Lerner

 Au Revoir!!!






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Broke + Single = No dates

Bonjour Tout le Mode =D!!!

Today’s post has been inspired by my Facebook friends, G.R.E.A.T Scott and Vivian N. Their morning post was on the topic of Love & Relationships but from an angle that not many of us are openly talking about. Can a relationship work when there’s no money, car or stability? Think about it now…. I am sure many of us have stories about loving someone so much that money didn’t matter, their love was enough. That last line was actually the staring sentence to one of the posts, “… I’ve been in one relationship where I could honestly say love was enough.” (Scott, 2014) He continues on to say that finance, basically, enables or disables a man to finding and dating someone. It’s sad but true I’ve been around women who discredits a man a efforts or defames his character because he doesn’t make enough. I remember a cousin of mine cussing out a boy , who came to her house to take her out, because he wasn’t driving it was so bad I felt sorry for him.  It’s not just females who think like this, I once dated a really cool guy who expressed to me that dating an unemployed woman is a burden. I’ve heard a friend say he prefers to date a females who have their own means of transport because it’s less stress on him. A client once shared with me that he rather buy sex, or “trick-off” than to date a female who is looking for a free meal and have no real interest in him. In as much I can understand their points, what about the person? Does one’s character, maturity, views on life, ambitions and demeanor mean anything anymore?

Reciting from the quote Vivian posted, ” ‘No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some was you have to bend, compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…’ ” – Sarah Dessen It is true sound. We often look for that “perfect” relationship, whatever that is, but not look for the goodness in a person and discussing with self what it is you are willing to tolerate. No person is perfect, we all have flaws. The ideal mate will compliment you, add to your strengths and build on your weakness. Something money isn’t involved in, per se. Yet, the times we’re living in, everyone is independent and don’t really need a steady partner for life, a substitute lover will make do. What happened with the dating to courtship to marriage formula? What is this half-ass logic we are rationalizing? I have disposable income and I will date multiple people or I only have money to pay bills so I can’t date anyone. What is that about? Can someone living on a budget find their soulmate? Or is it only allowed for those who have the money to spurge, can meet & mate with someone? What is our priorities when it comes to the mating game? Don’t act like it is not a game. People’s intentions for meeting someone varies and changes, like Georgia’s weather, it’s not consistently one way. Are we dating to meet our life-partner or are we looking for the next hot thing to warm up to. Spring is coming and I know people are waking up from hibernation and ditching their winter snuggle for the spring fling. That has nothing to do with love.

What is love in these modern times? In saying that, I hear Tina Turner’s song, “What’s Love Got To Do With It” in my head, valid point that’s still relevant to this day. If all that matters in a relationship is money, how many of us are in relationships? or want to be in one? I am a hopeless romantic who believes in love being stronger than monetary contributions but then that Halle Berry scene, from ‘Boomerang’, comes to mind where she’s a art teacher in love with Marcus who is in love with sex and money. These mis-match pairs always come together in movies but in real life… slim chance. Nice guys generally lose to the prick with the flash fame. Yes, being broke is a state of mind not all relates to money. Some big ballers go broke fast and all that came with the money leaves just as fast, but if there’s genuine love someone may stick around and be apart of the come-back. Too bad I don’t hear a lot of those stories. Too many are wanting a hand-out oppose to a helping hand. As the saying goes, “a friend in need is a friend indeed” and it’s that friend who we either marry or overlook and they get married to someone else who recognize their blessing and seized it.

I am single, not broke yet I find myself dating and supporting, partly finance and emotional support, men who don’t recognize nor appreciate my efforts. That mon amies is ass backwards and another discussion =) knowing when to gracefully bow-out…

Au revoir!!!

SHOUT OUTS!!!  Merci Beaucoup Ms. Vivian N. and  Mr. G.R.E.A.T Scott you both really sparked something in a lot people, including me, to get engaged in this need to know topic. Much love and Respect.

March Awareness

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Bienvenue to the marvelous month of March!!! =) March is one of my favourite months, all because it’s the 3rd month of the year and #3 is my number! Ok, so, I am a little bias whatever =) {Do you have a favourite number or a few? I do!} I also like March because it marks the end of Winter and the beginning of Spring!!! =)) yay!!! Let’s hang up the heavy coats and bring out the light jackets. Oui!
As I get ready for this month I thought to see what other cool happenings are going on, so I went to Google. I clicked on an awareness calendar to see what this month and the others had listed. I wasn’t ready for what unfolded before me, every month had a long list of topics to be aware of. Let me share with you all what listed for March… Brace yourselves…

March is:

*Brain Injury Awareness Month
*Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month
*Endometriosis Awareness Month
*Gender Equality Month
*Greek-American Heritage Month
*Irish-American Heritage Month
*Juvenile Arthritis Awareness Month
*Mental Retardation Awareness Month
*Multiple Sclerosis Awareness Month
*Nutrition Month
*Red Cross Month
*Self Harm Awareness Month
*Social Worker’s Month
*Women’s History Month

Tu regarde?!!?! You see, there is 14 of them! {yes, I counted} There’s enough for one to learn & share each interest for about two days and move on to the next one. I only of 1! Nutrition Awareness, who know there are so many! You know what?! That’s what I will do, I will search, learn & share my findings!
I could’ve guessed this would be Irish-American Heritage Month but I didn’t know and so that is where I start today! The purpose of Heritage Months is to become culturally knowledgeable of all ethic backgrounds that make up this melting pot of a country, the good ole USA.

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I learned that Irish-American Heritage Month came from the observance of Saint Patrick’s Day, which was originally a religious holiday. St. Patrick’s Day was named after the man , or saint, who brought Christianity to Ireland in the 5th century.
Over time, this honourable day became a celebration of everything Irish. The first parade happened on the 17th of March 1762, there were Irish soldiers marching the streets of New York in their English military uniforms. (There are some whispers that the 1st St. Patty’s Day *nickname for St. Patrick’s day* parade was in Boston. Ma…) This probably explains the heavy Irish population in he New England region; for instance: places like, Maine, Vermont, Boston, Rhode Island, New York and others. imagesZ0XYU3AJ

This one day event grew into a yearly celebration participated by all that, in 1948 the president Henry S.Truman, whom is of Scotch-Irish blood, attended. So did the first Irish-Catholic president, John F. Kennedy in 1961, it was big news to all. Decades later, in 1991, Congress decided to commemorate the festivities and made this month, March, as the Irish-American Heritage Month. imagesBF4PCNU2
Like Black History Month, National Latino Heritage Month and Asian/South-pacific Heritage Month, this was created to honour the lives of those who migrated from Ireland and their descendants to achieve their dreams in the land of milk & honey. There were many were dedicated, contributed and accomplished great things here in America. Such as: Commodore John Barry – regarded as the hero of the American Revolution; Sergeant Major Daniel Daly, USMC – was known for his exceptional fighting skills on and off the battlefield; Colonel Eileen Collins – she was the 1st woman to command a U.S. spacecraft; Christa McAuliffe – Astronaut/ teacher just to list a few.

Each year, since 1991 with president George H.W. Bush, there has been a Presidential Proclamation of this month honouring those Irish immigrants who help America be where she is today. First in the morning there is a Shamrock ceremony, this is the presentation of a shamrock given to the President from a crystal bowl {ohh la laa, special shamrock} in the Oval Office then it’s followed by a Friends of Ireland luncheon at the U.S Capital. The attendees: The President, Vice President, the Speaker, Taoiseach (this is the Prime Minister of Ireland) and other government officials. {I wonder if they drink the infamous green beer} imagesAQXEEJNS

Here’s a picture of the current President Barack Obama & Taoiseach Enda Kenny together on St. Patty’s Day 2012 240px-Barack_Obama_and_Enda_Kenny_in_the_Oval_Office_2012 at the looks of things maybe the luncheon feature drink was green beer, hee hee =)

Beannacht Maith! <- means "good-bye" in Irish… thanks to Dictionary.com



Madame G’s Boudoir Favourites: March 2014

Salut mon amies!!!

I have created this post to share with you all what are my top favs in the delicious world sexual arousal, temptation, pleasure, pain and ecstasy!!!
There will be up-to-date posts on all of these delightful awesome topics such as: Shoes, Lingerie, Hosiery, Naughty gadgets & things plus more! =)) oui, j’adore! *Yes, I love it!*

Today, for example, Just Fab ( http://www.justfab.com ) posted their Top 10 shoes for March. Normally when I look at there selection I do a glance if anything sticks out, I may buy it. However this was no ordinary day, I opened the email and BOOM! I saw my new line right before my eyes! well, figuratively speaking, of course… It’s bananas that these shoes are the colour palette for my spring/summer collection! =)) C’est fou! *It’s crazy!* I got inspired to create a page and share it with all of you.

Here are a few that stood out to me, these shoes are my top 5 on their top 10 list, that are worth posting and… over-the-shoulder appropriate (hee hee wink, wink)
Bienvenue Madames!
354322-01-1_589x860 Lady Jesadora (even the name is SEXY ohh la la) 354159-10-1_589x860 Lady Rynter 354141-14-1_589x860 Lady Lilias 354259-10-1_589x860 Lady Agnese
354250-10-1_589x860 Lady Vernon

These are delectable samples of what inspired me to create this new collection…. What is its name??? … I won’t tell you yet! I am keeping it a surprise, it has been awhile since my last full line so I want to build up the suspense and drop little clues here and there… =)

In the meantime, checkout JustFab latest! ( http://www.justfab.com ) they have luxurious styles on the economical saavy budget =))
Just imagine wearing one of those sexy heels with This:

ESL pix_alley_front close upGarment: Lady B1AKBR3 3-piece (top, panty and skirt); Collection: Garden of Eden 3000; Dancer: Alley

or to This: ESL pix_ravin_frontGarment: Lady D.C Blanche (halter top) Lady Cho D. Lait (high-waist thong); Collection: Nude Elegance: Chocolat Edition; Dancer: Raven

or how about This One:ESL pix_melia
Garment: Lady BLU3BR3; One piece romper Collection: Garden of Eden 3000; Dancer: Melia

we ALL know what pair go scrumptious with This: ESL pix_shanae_front sexyGarment: Lady Cheri Noir; 2-piece set Collection: Nude Elegance: Chocolat Edition; Dancer: Shanae

Merci beaucoup to the photographer: Ms. Styles, for capturing some nice pictures of the event, my garments and the candids. It was a good time, we all had a blast! Check out her photo gallery: http://www.stylesphotography.com

Au Revoir!